As I was running today (a very long 10K), I began comparing my running with my relationship with The Girl. Allow me to explain... Running takes a lot of effort and it is just as much physical as it is mental. Sometimes, many times, it is much more mental than physical. You have to learn to pace yourself. Run too fast, and you burn out. Jump into a relationship with your heart on your sleeve and all the cards on the table, and you've gone in too far too fast. It won't last.
Perhaps the biggest comparison is that running makes no use of negative thoughts. I've tried many times to think of something that made me mad to push myself further, and it hasn't worked. It doesn't matter how much someone has hurt me, I don't use that pain to make the pain of running go away. Pain compounds pain. It's not good. Instead, in running, like in my relationship with The Girl, I use only positive thoughts. I think about the wonderful, good things that will come from the time and the effort that I put into the task at hand. Rewards work better than punishments 2-to-1.
Finally, you have to make the effort to go the extra mile in running and in your relationships. Not only will you be stronger on the other side, but relationships, like marathons and shorter races, will seem easy and fun. You really have to train your heart in more than one way, if you think about it.
Perhaps the biggest comparison is that running makes no use of negative thoughts. I've tried many times to think of something that made me mad to push myself further, and it hasn't worked. It doesn't matter how much someone has hurt me, I don't use that pain to make the pain of running go away. Pain compounds pain. It's not good. Instead, in running, like in my relationship with The Girl, I use only positive thoughts. I think about the wonderful, good things that will come from the time and the effort that I put into the task at hand. Rewards work better than punishments 2-to-1.
Finally, you have to make the effort to go the extra mile in running and in your relationships. Not only will you be stronger on the other side, but relationships, like marathons and shorter races, will seem easy and fun. You really have to train your heart in more than one way, if you think about it.
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