Even if you don't believe in the teachings of the Bible as a matter of Faith, you must at least agree with me that there is a lot of knowledge and wisdom written into the Bible. Sure, some read into it what they want to, but it is worth reading. The author of the book of Genesis wrote that "...a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." He wrote it in the context of the creation of man and woman and how they "fit" together in the grand scheme of things. I particularly like Peter's message that husbands must treat their wives with understanding, giving them honor. Otherwise, "your prayers will not be heard." As The Girl and I continue to work toward our wedding and our lives together, these teachings from hundreds (or thousands) of years ago ring true.
If only that were the case with our parents. Our parents are all divorced from each other. Those failed marriages left a lot of doubt and sore feelings among them. My Mom and Dad talk to each other, but I'm sure they're not completely happy with each other. There is a lot of remorse, regret, and some anger at what happened there. The Girl's Mom has been an issue as of late because of her insecurities brought on by her failed marriage. The Girl's Dad is also weary of his daughter getting married and is surely afraid of her getting hurt.
While my own parents have been very much "hands off" with me since I was about 16 years old (only intervening when I requested their assistance), The Girl's parents are very much "helicopter parents". I think this is because of several reasons: The Girl is, well, a girl; I am not from this country, being from Texas; and losing power over her would mean them losing power over yet another loved one... like they lost it with each other.
Maybe I'm wrong, and maybe I'm reading too much into this. But maybe... just maybe... the wisdom of our parents is not written in stone or infallible. I guess I'll have to wait and see how it feels to have my own children tell me I'm wrong.
If only that were the case with our parents. Our parents are all divorced from each other. Those failed marriages left a lot of doubt and sore feelings among them. My Mom and Dad talk to each other, but I'm sure they're not completely happy with each other. There is a lot of remorse, regret, and some anger at what happened there. The Girl's Mom has been an issue as of late because of her insecurities brought on by her failed marriage. The Girl's Dad is also weary of his daughter getting married and is surely afraid of her getting hurt.
While my own parents have been very much "hands off" with me since I was about 16 years old (only intervening when I requested their assistance), The Girl's parents are very much "helicopter parents". I think this is because of several reasons: The Girl is, well, a girl; I am not from this country, being from Texas; and losing power over her would mean them losing power over yet another loved one... like they lost it with each other.
Maybe I'm wrong, and maybe I'm reading too much into this. But maybe... just maybe... the wisdom of our parents is not written in stone or infallible. I guess I'll have to wait and see how it feels to have my own children tell me I'm wrong.
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